Self Care Sunday Vol. 3
At some point in life, it feels like the universe is playing a game with you. Everything is going great and then suddenly life is throwing all types of unimaginable obstacles in your way. You begin to feel defeated, start to give up on your goals, even going as far as wanting to give up on life. But you can’t, because things will get better.
These past few months, I’ve been tossed multiple curved balls. Of course some days I didn’t see it getting better because I was caught up in the moment with a negative mindset. Looking back on those moments, I realized there are certain things that consistently helped me through those times.
1. Act out your emotions: be emotional, go through every emotion that you feel at that time. Holding them in will only backfire in the long run, you don’t want to wrongfully lash out on someone. How ever you’re feeling regarding the situation, act on it in a healthy way.
2. Have a support system: having a person or people to go to in your time of need is crucial in moments like this. A group of friends, a spouse, any family member, or even a therapist; talk it out. Support system may help you develop a game plan for your situation. Cry it out, yell it out, talk it out, pray it out, whatever you need to do. Do it with your support system.
3. Change your ways: look back at the situation and see how you could have either avoided it or prepared for it. We never expect the unimaginable to happen, and when it does it’s devastating. If you don’t expect it to hit home, how can you prepare? For example if it was a financial hardship, try to put a little bit more into your savings. Or if it was a failure, don’t give up on yourself. Analyze where you went wrong, develops a new plan, and try again. I know it’s sounds crazy, but prepare for the worst so when the worst happens it’s not so bad.
4. Hunt the good stuff: if you’re military, you already know what I mean. Don’t dwell on the negative aspects of the situation, try to find the good in it. This is probably easier said than done, but dwelling on the negative only makes it worse. Yes something terrible happened, but you’re alive, you’re healthy, and you have people that care about you.
So, don’t ever give up. Keep fighting through the struggle. Not only will it make you a stronger individual, but you will look back at that moment with glee thinking of how you overcame it. Always remember, there would be no flowers without the rain.